Dear Kristi,

There’s this guy I used to hang out and hook up with. But now we have this crazy thing going on. One day we’ll be really close and the next he’ll act mean and bipolar and tell me I’m clingy. I can’t get rid of him. I want to move on but every time I try to, he comes back and acts sweetly and I fall right back in. I know he’s not really worth it, but I can’t stop thinking about him. What do I do?

— Casually Clung

Dear Clung,

Getting over someone is always hard, even if you weren’t in the typical relationship. The friends-with-benefits relationship looks good on paper, but feelings always get involved in some way. Your situation is even worse because he’s still a big part of your life. There’s your problem.

Get him out of your everyday life. After a while of not talking to him or seeing him, it’ll be easier for you to not think about him. You’ll be able to be completely single. It’ll give you a chance to meet a new guy, one who is right for you.

And down the road, maybe you and the old guy will be able to be friends again. But for now, you need to do what’s best for you. And since you want him gone, make him gone. And in the future you need to consider what you’re really looking for before getting into anything.

— Kristi